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International expert on mental health and addiction issues. Pioneer in the field of co-occurring disorders. Published author of five books most recent book Unfortunate Hero: The Soldiers Path From Trauma and Addiction, with contribution by husband SFC Michael Kelley, Army (Retired) Ask Dr. Katie

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Filibuster Busting the Play

Filibuster Busting The Play

I wrote this blog once this morning. It is best that I lost it in cyberspace. Saying I lost it applies on so many levels. Checking in with CNN as usual I saw the Play of The Day.  Amending the Filibuster rule.  Thank God!  If We The People could have a way to instantly text the congress whether on not we agree or disagree with an idea, imagine what a stir that would cause! Like on The Voice we could have 10 minutes to text the Senate to tell them save the Filibuster or dump it! Wow! What instant feedback that would be.

The filibuster was historically a procedure in the Senate established during a time when statesmanship ruled over brinkmanship. In case I need to define these terms. Statesmanship was the art of negotiation.  I thought it was a win/win way of problem solving through somewhat elegant communication. Brinkmanship is the new term to describe the BS going on in DC. It is a gaming term. It is about strategy to win the game. Win at all costs.  In recent brinkmanship ploys we have seen Senator Rand Paul to quote CNN “rand on and on and on.” This got him a lot of attention and free press. That is what he wants as he wants President Obama’s job he thinks he is the guy to do it better! Even if it means stopping the Senate in in it’s track through the use of the filibuster.  Both annoyed and impressed by his ability to talk for 13 hours I occasionally tuned in to see what anyone would say for that long. When I saw his staff had prepared him a notebook of ridiculous unrelated material including reading Alice in Wonderland, I was really angered at this mans tantrum.  His tantrum to stop government in its tracks cost us, we the tax payer lots of money.

Not to be out done. Along came another mantrum or tantrum which ever you prefer. In the form of baby Senator Ted Cruz. I hate to even use his name as I know his only goal is to get famous so he too can get more power and control and win the game.  He is copycat Cruz. He had to out do Senator Paul by talking an additional 10 hours. To do so he age regressed and read Green Eggs and Ham.  He had missed his own bedtime story staying up so late bringing the government to a halt and wasting time and once again money.

This is not a democrat or republican rally. It is only continued concern about the Dysfunction in DC.  These self severing Narcissists (NPD) shut our government down. Cost us millions, embarrassed us as a nation.   So to cry foul when the Senate has to change the rules so the Senate can get back on track is crazy.  Speaking of crazy let me be a bit more clinically specific. These game players under their brinkmanship gaming stuff are double talking themselves and us into a trance. This double talk is a type of brainwashing. We are all falling into a trance.

When a lie is repeated over and over again the teller and the listener can start to believe that it is true. It is a type of brainwashing. Slogans do this, affirmations do this, marketing does this, the military does this, abusive people do this and congress does this.  The nest time you hear one of the tantrum kings talk on the news, listen to what they are saying for only 3 minutes. I assure you that is plenty. Then write down what you thought you heard them say. I know your eyes have glossed over and you most likely can not find a pen because you are in a trance! If you can manage to write it down, you will be surprised to see they said nothing! Double talk and loop again.

I do not want to blame Wolf Blitzer and some of my other favorite CNN reporters, I have seen them try to get these people to get to the point!  I have heard in frustration reporters ask “just answer yes or no!”  But the DC people can not  or rarely can do that.   If they did that they would go off message.  They would break their brainwashing script being used on We The People.  A lie is a lie no matter how many times or different ways you try to tell it. Save it!

We must break our own trance! When your trying to understand what is going on and you start to feel spacey, tiered and a bit confused, you are getting hypnotized, you are falling into a trance!  You need to break the trance. I teach trance busting. This may sound silly but a few simple tips to come out of the trance are to: stand up and shake your booty, get a glass of water and drink, throw your dog a bone or toy, play with your children, hold hands with your loved one. Blog, text, tell a joke. When you feel more back in your body and in the room. You will remember to change the channel to Jude Judy. I find great solace there. In Judge Judy’s world all is reasonable and justice is done. The Voice does this for me as I get to vote!

If our the founders of our government who created the filibuster could hear all the brinkmanship noise in DC they most certainly have their face to the ground in embarrassment.  This is not the Senate and government of our for fathers. The filibuster like many plays of the day are being misused for those who seek personal gain not the greater good for the country.

May have over blogged

Apologies in advance if I blogged a similar article on NPD twice. I thought I had lost my original post so I rewrote it. Then I thought I lost the second one and  found the first one. New to blogging? Can you tell? The second article is different after the diagnosis of NPD. I will continue a discussion of breaking your trance when I see that second one post. Got to admit I am getting better…

Dysfunction In DC

Capitol, Washington DC
Capitol, Washington DC (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

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Psychological assessment of Washington DC

In reviewing the behavior of individual government legislators as individuals and the group as a whole I have developed a psychological profile.  In doing so I hope this can offer some perspective as why Washington DC can not work effectively together. If DC were my client I would start with a presenting problems list, so I will begin so here. There is a total incapacity to work together effectively. Here are some key issues I have noticed.

Problem List

EGO- self centered

Selfishness

False Pride

Grandiosity

Power and Control

Impulsivity

Look Good above do good

Can’t play well with others

Diagnostic Impression: 301.81   Narcissistic Personality Disorder

The criteria to diagnosis a narcissistic personality disorder according to the DSM-5 are:

A pervasive pattern of grandiosity (in fantasy or behavior) need for attention, lack of empathy, beginning by early adulthood and present in a variety of contexts as indicated by five of more of  the following.

1. Has a grandiose sense of self importance (e.g. exaggerates achievements and talents and expects to be recognized as superior, without having earned it.

2. Is preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance beauty or ideal love.

3. Believes that he or she is “special” and unique and can only be understood by or should associate with other special people or high status people.

4. Requires excess admiration.

5.A sense of entitlement.

6. Is interpersonally exploitive (takes advantage of others to achieve own ends.

7. Lacks empathy: Is unwilling to recognize or identify with the feelings and needs of others.

8. Is often envious of others are envious of him or her.

9. Shows arrogant, haughty behaviors and attitudes.

Remember, you only had to observe five of the nine traits out of your least favorite legislator to make the diagnosis.. I was able to see nine out of nine in most. You do not have to spend $50,000 on graduate school to get a PhD in psychology like I did to see the similarities to the narcissistic personality traits and the problem list which  I started the article. Washington DC is amuck with Narcissistic Personality Disorders! (NPD)

While the problem is vast the solution is two fold. We need to intervene to affect change in the individuals and we need to change the system to change the individuals. So what does that psychobabble mean?

Changing the individual NPD

“We the people” Americans whom the NPD  serve need to make a stronger impression on our legislators. In the worldview of the NPD they are the masters of the universe. They are great big balls of fire. To them we are tiny spects of sand. Meaningless really by ourselves. We only even appear on their foot when millions of us get together and make ourselves known.

It is easy to feel small and overwhelmed when our government seems to be making such an embarrassing mess out America.  I confess that I am a bit of a CNN junkie. When Wolf Blitzer and Anderson Cooper are spending too much time talking to dysfunctional NPD’s in Washington DC I start to get overdosed.  When a reporter asks a question and the congress man or women does not answer “yes” or “no” but contuse to have diarrhea of the mouth I start to scream,!  I begin yelling at Wolf or Anderson to “shut off their microphone, cut them off!” or begging “please do not have that lying idiot on CNN again!” My husband points out that our dogs are hiding as they think they are in trouble. I realize I am not only talking to an inhuman objects, but I am getting stressed out!  I must at this point put myself in CNN detox. I start with hours. I then check the stories. If they are still talking about the government shutdown or Obama care I shut off the TV,  At times I have even switch the station to Judge Judy, a humiliating admission at best.

This is not to say tat “we the people” will blow away like sand through the hours glass. We are not helpless!  The only way to get the NPD to want to change is to blow sand in their eye. We must hold a realistic mirror up to their face and show them how we see them. They will not change their thinking or behavior because it is the right thing to do. They will change it to look good and maintain power and control!  So how can we do this?” We the people” need to make a lot of noise! Use social media. Tweet, blog, email, link, text even send a letter or fax. Yell if you need to! (not just at the T,V.)  Tell your representative what you think, what you want and what will happen if they do not get to work for you!!  But most importantly VOTE!  When I hear other people talking or complaining about politicians I always ask ” did you vote?”  More than half the time the answer is “no.” Usually following are a bunch of rather lame excuses like “I didn’t have time” or “I forgot” more often I hear “I do not like anyone of them to even vote for them.” That’s when I say “then vote them out!” To have a voice and the power to vote and to not use it is to simply give our America over to NPD and other Selfish individuals.  It is as if “we the people” have given up before we began.

The other reason we do not change the individual by changing who is in congress is the excuse that “I like my states congressmen, it’s the other states congress people that are nuts.”  I admit I am guilt of this one. I am from Oregon, and I really do like who we sent to DC. I do not want my State to loose seniority in the house or senate.  However, if it means losing seniority to gain sanity I am all for it!

Change the System

I think there should just e one 10 year term in office. Run once. Serve your term and your out of there.  If people were not always worried about getting re-elected I think they would get to work and do their jobs. The current influx of NPD is so profound that they have not only brainwashed themselves with their own BS but they have tried to brainwash each other. We just have to be sure that their repeated rhetoric does not brainwash us!

During the government shut down and the hostile fight over the affordable care act aka Obama care, I heard a Senator and a representatives state that the congress that past the bill should not have been able to vote. They were a “lame duck congress!” The logic here is because they were not running for office during that session they were not worried enough about what the voters thought.  These guys have their own shared  delusional believes. They are in fact psychotic on top of NPD.  They are so grandiose and self important that they believe that they  with no experience or understanding of how government works already knows more than everyone else that was there before them.That being said I think we would be hard pressed to find a representative or a Senator who would introduce a bill to limit the term served to ten years no reruns. That would be a tough change to make!

So my fellow Americans, what can we do to throw some sand in the eye’s of the NPD who turn a blind eye and a deaf ear to the rue needs of most Americans? Vote, and make noise.  I have sat in the capitol building in DC at closing time when the halls are empty. I have looked around at the portraits and busks of Washington, Lincoln, Jefferson and other great and righteous leaders. Where and when did we go wrong? Were the fathers of our country all NPD’s? I hope not! Lets all make a lot of noise!

Katie Evans PhD, NCACII,CADCIII

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Katie Evans PhD NCACII